Relationships unfortunately come with a lot of drama and pressure, which fortunately some of it can be avoided if only half of us know why we are getting into relationships in the first place. Relationships can be hectic, and they involve some level of commitment, which should never be taken lightly. Whether you are ready for a relationship or not, you can find out by asking yourself these 7 questions.
A lot of people make the mistake of getting into a relationship because of a void that they are feeling, or because they are feeling lonely. Initially it can feel that you are ok, that you got what you wanted out of it, but in the long run, that void will catch up to you again. Do not enter a relationship because you are filling a void, enter because it is the right thing for you. Do not expect someone to complete you, you should be doing that yourself.
No one wants to be alone forever, and just the thought of that scares me to pieces. We all want to be loved and we all want to be able to love someone, and have a great relationship with them, because life is more beautiful when you have someone to share it with. Being scared to be alone however should not be the reason to get into a relationship, because you just might settle for way less than what you deserve.
Getting into a new relationship when you are on a rebound is never a good idea. Some people are of the belief that the best way to get over someone is to be with someone else. This does not really work out, because hearts do get broken. If you are reeling from a broken relationship, the best thing you can do is to get over it first, before you start a new one. Understand why it did not work, understand your part in it and process it, before you jump into a new one.
Being in love is undoubtedly one of the best things that can happen to you, but it can also be a very heartbreaking thing. If you are ready to give of yourself and understand that it might not necessarily work out, then you are ready to be in a relationship. Understand that just because you love someone to death does not automatically mean that it is going to work out, and with the risk of getting your heart broken, if you are still ready to take the plunge, then you are ready.
A relationship means you move from “I” to “we”, and this means commitment and compromise. If you are ready, you will know that it will not be about you, it will be about the both of you and you have to be willing to allow that person in your life, and their opinion and feelings should matter to you.
Being in a relationship means you move from your way of doing things, to the both of you way of doing things. Whatever changes that will confront you, you should be ready to embrace them. There may be a lot of changes that you will need to adapt to, and you should be ready for that.
You should never get into a relationship to run from something in your own life. If you are unhappy in your own life, it will be selfish to get into a relationship because chances are that relationship will be doomed from the start. If you are happy within yourself, you will be contributing something awesome, and that relationship can only be happy one.Relationships are a lot of work, and unfortunately hearts get involved in the process,sometimes even broken. You need to get into them realistically and with the right intentions.