There are great relationships out there, no doubt it. A great example for one such example for me is my parents, who have been happily married for 47 years. Pretty awesome, right?
That’s a long time to be with someone! And after all that time, they are still happy. In fact, so happy that they want to celebrate the love they have shared all this time, by renewing their vows.
But even with great relationships out there, it seems the majority of people are in relationships where they aren’t happy. Most people seem to be in relationships where they aren’t giving their all, and for the most part, their partners are not giving them what they need and deserve.
So, I wanted to look at how your partner is supposed to make you feel when you are in a relationship with them . . . and it should not be a once off. It should be on a consistent basis. Take a look right here:
Your partner should make you feel valued
A lot of relationships today lack this basic thing, where the person you are with makes you feel valued and appreciated. It could have something to do with them not spending enough time with you, or maybe it has something to do with them not expressing just how they value you in their life, but whatever it may be, it’s just not acceptable.
You are in a relationship with this person, you have chosen to be with them, you have chosen to prioritize them and you have chosen to give them your heart and your body. That is not minor, and it should not be taken lightly.
Your partner should make you feel attractive
A big part of a relationship goes to the physical intimacy that the two of you share. When you are with your love, you should feel attractive, you should feel wanted and your person should want to touch you and hold you and kiss you.
Maybe you are not the kind of person who is expressive physically and maybe you don’t mind if your partner does not touch you. But what if they are the complete opposite of that and they like seeing affection from you?
Don’t make your partner feel like you don’t want to be with them anymore, or that you have fallen out of love with them or that you don’t love them anymore. Show your love took every chance you get.
Your partner should make you feel accepted
Relationships are about compromise, but the person in your life should support you in the things that you love and do. In a supportive relationship, you should never be expected to change yourself from the core, your partner should love you and accept you as you are.
Your partner should make you feel respected
Respect is a huge part of a relationship and the person you are with should give you the ultimate respect. This means that you should be comfortable around them, you should be comfortable with the things they do and you should be comfortable with the things they do with you, to you and when you aren’t with them.
Your partner should make you feel safe
When you are around someone who you are meant to be with, there should be no room for feelings of fear, intimidation or nervousness. The words they use and their actions towards you are a window to the kind of relationship you are going to have, and if there are feelings that aren’t good or positive, then your relationship could be headed to splitsville.
Your partner should make you feel proud
Your relationship with your partner should make you happy, happy to be in their life. It should be the kind of thing where you are excited for the people in your life to see him/her and to be around them – just because of how amazing they are, and how proud you are of them.
Your partner should make you feel inspired
Being around them, you see the best you emerge, just because they inspire you to be the version of yourself.
Your partner should make you feel supported
They should support you in the things you love, the things you want to do and the things you want to accomplish-if those things are positive of course. They should cheer you on, instead of making you feel bad for having those dreams or goals.
Your partner should make you feel comfortable when expressing yourself
You should be comfortable in talking about things and laying your feelings out there. Communication is one of the fundamentals of a happy relationship, so you should be able to talk to your person freely and honestly.
Your partner should make you feel like you are the only one
You should be with someone who makes you feel that you don’t have to compete with anyone to be with them. Every single one of us has a past, however you should never have to feel like you are just an option to someone. And you should never be made to feel like at any moment everything can come crashing down, leaving you broken hearted. If you are not the only one or you feel like you are not in your partners life, something has to change.
And you should never be compared to someone in their past – EVER !
Happy relationships don’t just happen. They are as a result of two people who make a choice to be together, to commit to one another and who choose to make things work. Check the 5 best things you can do for your relationship.